How Stressful Is A Separation And A Divorce

How Stressful Is A Separation And A Divorce?

In life we all face problems from time to time that can cause us to suffer from increased levels of stress.  If we separate from somebody, or even worse, get divorced, then the stress levels involved are quite high but how stressful is separation or a divorce?  Is it more stressful than say having financial problems or losing your job or even say for example going to prison?

SEATONS RESEARCH

We at Seatons have been doing our own research into life events that cause increased stress levels and have come up with our own Top 40 list using our own unique Seatons arbitrary scoring system.

TOP 40 STRESS FACTORS

Without further ado we set out what we believe are the Top 40 life events that cause us the most stress:-

 1 Death of Spouse

99

 2 Divorce

75

 3 Separation

64

 4 Imprisonment

62

 5 Death of a Close Family Member

61

 6 Accident or Illness

55

 7 Getting Married

51

 8 Getting the Sack

48

 9 Retirement

46

 10 Illness of a Family Member

43

 11 Repossession of Home

42

 12 Sexual Problems

40

 13 Pregnancy

39

 14 New Family Member

38

 15 Major Business Problems

37

 16 Financial Problems

36

 17 Death of a Close Friend

35

 18 Changing Work Circumstances

33

 19 Taking on a Large Loan/Mortgage

30

 20 Family Leaving Home

27

 21 Trouble with In-Laws/Family

26

 22 Outstanding Personal Achievement

27

 23 Spouse Stops/Starts Work

25

 24 Starting/Leaving School

24

 25 Substantial Change in Living Conditions

23

 26 Trouble with Your Boss

22

 27 Substantial Change in Personal Habits

21

 28 Moving Home

20

 29 Changing School

20

 30 Change in Social Activity

20

 31 Death of a Pet

19

 32 Taking on Large Loan/Debt

17

 33 Children Getting Married

16

 34 Change in Sleeping Habits

15

 35 Change in Eating Habits

15

 36 Going on Holiday

12

 37 Children Going Travelling

11

 38 Christmas

10

 39 Children Starting Employment

9

 40 Minor Breaking of the Law

9

DIVORCE AND SEPARATION

The results are in from Seatons own arbitrary subjective poll.  In our opinion divorce and separation come in at numbers 2 and 3 in the Top 40 list of most stressful life events.

HOW TO COPE WITH STRESS

So now you know what the life events are that cause stress.  The big question is what can you do about it.

ATTITUDE

In our opinion stress is not caused by problems, it is often a person’s attitude towards the problems that can cause stress.  Knowing the cause of stress can make it easier to deal with.  Sometimes the question you need to ask yourself is now how can I rid myself of stress but how can I change my attitude towards work, events, disappointments, fears and people.  Therefore changing your attitude to life can go a long way towards improving stress levels.

PHYSICAL

Physical activity can also help such as physical exercise, reducing smoking or reliance on alcohol or other drugs.  Finding an outlet and maybe using stress reduction techniques such as yoga, meditation and other relaxation methods can also be of use.

LEGAL ADVICE

If you are in the process of separating or even thinking of divorce and are stressed and need legal help and advice then please call us for a free initial chat.  We are known as the Friendly Professionals and are here to help and guide you through what is obviously a very challenging and difficult time.